Try-it-on, cheating sleazebag makes pass at loyally-married woman;
I believe that its a good thing to fess up when kissing someone you care about when you drank too much could threaten your existing relationship. We were going through an awkward time in the relationship and I was craving the attention and simplicity of this guy. Shes Colombian and very fiery. SO if you shouldn't, then A) you should be able to tell him, and B) if he's the type to hit the roof over a kiss, he's a wee bit paranoid for his own good, and it wouldn't be *your* fault. Personally, if nothing happened apart from him buying drinks and giving you a ride home, then I wouldnt have told at all. A couple of nights ago I went out to a work function. At least I understood why our marriage failed and no further closure was needed. As one young man said " time heals" and he's so right. I practise what I preach, me. I waited for the right time ?? Even though it took her a while to make that choice, she both never recognized her role and then made a series of bad choices after. I am deeply shocked this has happened and I don't know who to turn to for help. So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. I feel like I like myself down and my husband down. female
I've gone to a couple thread's here recently. That is what separates the women from the girls. Foxie: There was something missing in my marriage. I've never gone to a counsellor before, but I'm going to see one next week to talk through it. I've been Dating a married Albanian man for 6 months already and NOT proud of it.Just wanna share my, Hurt my ex girlfriend, feel guilty and don't know what to do. If you kissed someone while you were drunk then perhaps you are worried about doing it again.
To be honest, my stomach is sick with the thoughts of the whole thing. I really need your help.I have been dating this boy for the past two months. Okay. Yesterday night we went out to drink. Best to start your own thread, like I say, if you want, where you could 'whistle while you work' to your heart's content. Mercy got too drunk, Cintia was drunk but she was ok so far. He was so drunk himself that he started singing I Love Paris and, in the middle of the song, he said in a gruff voice, You wanna kiss me? (Ta-daaaa!) Then the accusations begin, which night go something like: Why on earth did you kiss _________? Did You Know Anxiety Can Enhance Our Relationships? Like stateside, maybe southern California or San Diego? Lee, thats a good way to CYA - pretend youre talking about this as if it happened to someone else and then gauge your partners reaction. When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. Ive told her Im sorry, I wont let it happen again and Im sorry for being dishonest. Arun, I agree with everything you said here because I was guilty of kissing a guy I liked when I was drunk, knowing that I liked him and wanted to see how much.". I could list so many reasons why, but instead Ill just list a few. When my husband came home, he could tell right away that I had been drinking. So many arguments begin because our partners got drunk and kissed someone else while they were under the influence of alcohol. Then I ordered taxis, woke up the other girl and we left. It happens, in other words. Mr S lived there once (San Fransisco), but he hasn't any urge to return, either. The first step to a broken loyalty is a first kiss. I was heart broken, and even though he said he immediately pulled away, and we stayed together and over time forgot about it, I remember feeling so uneasy every time I knew he would be in that girls company. I have to be honest, I have never once had the urge to visit America. Translation: Stuff moral taboos, my wanton self-gratification urge is more important than any implement for world peacebut I'm a nice guy, no, really I am.) But, again, it's never what you do, it's the way that you do it, meaning I was careful to be sensitive in the telling. Be the adult here. = I'VE ONLY GOT HIS WORD FOR IT. Hello, TheBestAdvice: Im glad you thought my post was intelligent and that you could relate to it. Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." ;-) (Awlthough, dang naace trah, they-yer, at tryin-a git' me ter disclows mah gendah. Yes, I think if your boyfriend thinks his girl or boy or whatever is gonna be loyal to them even under the influence. That tells you that even if you think you are not showing any signs of being attracted to someone, peoples S/Os have a since of whats going on! Ugh, basically. Keep it to yourself. in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . As for what we believe about kissing being the gateway to sex (specifically foreplay, which itself is the main gate): if anyone believes it *isn't*, thenwellAll I could say to that is:
Just my thoughts having been a victim of cheating. The playing field is even now according to statistics. I have never done anything like this before and truly would never again. You lied to me for 2 years? We were good friends for a few years and have dated in the past but nothing serious. One of the best ways is to offer effective apologies. The 2 Most Psychologically Incisive Films of 2022, The Surprising Role of Empathy in Traumatic Bonding. (y)
I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. I felt sick! I believe that over time this would have happened with or without the wiskey.
But now he has begun university and I trust him with everything but I keep thinking of what I did. What!! I am the same way. True mistakes get owned and rectified. Everyone is telling me not to say anything because it was so long ago and it never happened again, or will it ever. The next time you saw your significant other you might have blurted out, I have a confession to make. I dont know what else to do. Bringing this up is only going to hurt your SO. After he gave me a drink we started kissing and I felt terrible.He then asked me to sleep with him. Carl Jung said that if you're dreaming of a stranger of the opposite sex, it usually means your psyche is tapping into your inner man or inner woman. We were not drunk. She had gone to bed. I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. He screamed and raged and then left to the lake and sent me a text saying he cannot trust someone who would make an unwise decision like that. Don't hurt him any more than you already have. WORK. It's one of those cases where keeping it a secret would be worse than the transgression itself, especially since it'd be a case of 'the pot calling the kettle black'. If your husband *did* get wind of it thus realised you'd kept it secret from him - despite he told YOU when someone made a pass at HIM - he'd then have A NUMBER of major beefs with you:
This guy wouldnt take money from me (I should have seen this as a Red Flag, but didnt), so I bought him opera scores in order to compensate him for his time and expertise. We've not made it exclusive yet but we did agree to not see other people at the beginning. I guess it's the nature of the topic - emotive yet one of those Grey areas. I know, I need to start a thread. (I bet many would not kiss & TELL -as it would only invite chaos in their marraiges). I'm not condoning what I've done, and it's a totally different set of circumstances, but I remember wishing I had never known about the stupid kiss, as it tainted things for a while afterward. If this is bothering you, then tell him. It should prevent you from repeating your actions. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. Egon Ronay-level Petit Degustation, requires the corresponding amount of TIME in which to do so. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. he said if i started making out with another girl, hed be into it, but if i started getting carried away and disappearing with So if for some reason he'd got funny about it, I'd have just dealt with it. I wouldn't want him around the person. He never says this so I knew it was something serious. He encouraged me to to ring for a taxi from his house which I did. And, of course, cheating always tends to increase during a recession. SOULMATE (moderator), is this seriously your job? Should find time to respond tomorrow. Its more like an excuse for cheating. I agree. You werent totally bombed out of your mind, so you realized what you did and you felt guilty about it. Helping ppl have the sex life they truly want thru writing & education. You just never, ever know. It's not the crime that counts, it's the time. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do . I feel horrible. [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. You love your spouse and you want to do your best to be a good partner. Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Psychology and the Mystery of the "Poisoned" Schoolgirls. My husband wasnt home at the time. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Already have an account? The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. For the last few years we have been trying for a baby and are currently going through tests to try find out why it's not happening.
Yes Im addiction there are things called SUDs.. A female friend of mine was staying at our house for the weekend. I'll still cross over with him at times, but it will be minimal. The way it happened-not so good! However, if it doesn't close itself through sustained inactivity soon then I'll probably close it myself (as the actress said to the bishop). If I ws on ur place I would never have told him because he loves me so much and respect me so much and really trust me like anything and if you are guilty and try to relieve ur guilt by telling him still doesn't prove to be beneficial for you and other than that it creates a doubt in his heart that would be very mych lowering The respect he has in his heart for you. I rang the guy and said ' oh wow, so last night, that really happened, what the hell where we at? ' I went that night to a bar and began to get very drunk. This should be obvious, but sadly, for many it's not. Don't feel guilty. I'm asking myself all sorts of questions like did I like him, is that why I did it? You drank and you kissed. So she left after a couple of replies. I didnt blame the alcohol because I knew I had feelings for my piano teacher, and I didnt want to pretend the feelings didnt exist. My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. There was a line that was crossed when they kissed, he should no longer have her as a Facebook friend, or any other communication with her.